Valentine's Day
As Valentines day approaches I am asking a question my friend Richard used to ask. "Where's the love?" In the face of great unkindness he would ask "Where's the love?” February has been host to the romantic celebration for years. I have taken part in the hearts and roses thing when appropriate. I've learned a lesson, the hard way, and it made me know where my love is. So much of it is in my friends. My dog for that matter. I extend this fourteenth to include all the people I love and care about.
I unfortunately got involved in a domestic dispute over money. My friend was so upset and asked very large questions about what I thought she should do. In my efforts to put things in perspective I brought up a piece of history that was best left for the history channel to dig up a hundred years form now. Thinking that if a relationship can survive that, there is no question about the money issue. I thought this was old news to all concerned. However this ugly rumor was in fact making a debut performance to my friend. As she took in the information and asked the questions I wondered if it was the Inca's or the Mayans that learned how to make themselves invisible through meditation. I will regret nothing more than bringing to life what was dead and gone.
For days I have wondered about the fine line in friendship, between honesty and ignorance is bliss. Dear Abby once advised someone to stay out of other peoples affairs (insert obvious joke here). I have avoided getting pulled into the 90210 zip code until now. My heart was in the right place, and I plead absence of malice. I was asked to get involved and advise. I only hoped to paint a big picture of all things considered. And then you can only ask yourself what you are willing to live with or without. I had no idea that some of the brush strokes would leave such an impact. There is a line in the movie "The Women" the mother tells Mary "Don't' talk to your girlfriends about it. They will see to it in the name of friendship that you loose your husband and your home." This was not my intent.
I am shocked at my own short sightedness, not seeing how this could change a friendship. Even end it. I would have thought myself to be the last person on the planet to hurt any of my friends. Yet here I am. Knowing how much I love these people and so aware of what I've done to cause ill feelings. I am now from this day forward the guy that said too much.
Yes it is true; I've put myself on the cross. When I get down I will hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil. I may not speak at all. The anguish I feel is telling of how much I value my friends. I was never unaware of their significance in my life. Only now I'm very aware of what it would be like with out either of them. I have for so long basked in the warm glow of their friendship and too shined upon them the same peaceful light. I think now the shadows are best left in the dark. There is no need to witness what can not be seen by the light of day. I know where the love is. I hope it is always there. I hope someday this lapse of judgment on my part is deep in the darkest shadow of our history.
Until then, this has brought to light the need to appreciate all that we love. To dance with it and sing to it. Buy it candy and roses. Not just this month but everyday. That is where the love is. In shadow and in the light. To see the beauty in that contrast is wise.
Shine onto all you love this Valentines day, know where your love is.
I unfortunately got involved in a domestic dispute over money. My friend was so upset and asked very large questions about what I thought she should do. In my efforts to put things in perspective I brought up a piece of history that was best left for the history channel to dig up a hundred years form now. Thinking that if a relationship can survive that, there is no question about the money issue. I thought this was old news to all concerned. However this ugly rumor was in fact making a debut performance to my friend. As she took in the information and asked the questions I wondered if it was the Inca's or the Mayans that learned how to make themselves invisible through meditation. I will regret nothing more than bringing to life what was dead and gone.
For days I have wondered about the fine line in friendship, between honesty and ignorance is bliss. Dear Abby once advised someone to stay out of other peoples affairs (insert obvious joke here). I have avoided getting pulled into the 90210 zip code until now. My heart was in the right place, and I plead absence of malice. I was asked to get involved and advise. I only hoped to paint a big picture of all things considered. And then you can only ask yourself what you are willing to live with or without. I had no idea that some of the brush strokes would leave such an impact. There is a line in the movie "The Women" the mother tells Mary "Don't' talk to your girlfriends about it. They will see to it in the name of friendship that you loose your husband and your home." This was not my intent.
I am shocked at my own short sightedness, not seeing how this could change a friendship. Even end it. I would have thought myself to be the last person on the planet to hurt any of my friends. Yet here I am. Knowing how much I love these people and so aware of what I've done to cause ill feelings. I am now from this day forward the guy that said too much.
Yes it is true; I've put myself on the cross. When I get down I will hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil. I may not speak at all. The anguish I feel is telling of how much I value my friends. I was never unaware of their significance in my life. Only now I'm very aware of what it would be like with out either of them. I have for so long basked in the warm glow of their friendship and too shined upon them the same peaceful light. I think now the shadows are best left in the dark. There is no need to witness what can not be seen by the light of day. I know where the love is. I hope it is always there. I hope someday this lapse of judgment on my part is deep in the darkest shadow of our history.
Until then, this has brought to light the need to appreciate all that we love. To dance with it and sing to it. Buy it candy and roses. Not just this month but everyday. That is where the love is. In shadow and in the light. To see the beauty in that contrast is wise.
Shine onto all you love this Valentines day, know where your love is.
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